Today I read an antidote about a woman who had moved into a new home. While sitting in her kitchen, she looked out the window to see her neighbor hanging her laundry to dry in the warmth of the summer sun. The woman made mention to her husband at how dirty the neighbor’s laundry looked. “Someone really ought to teach her how to do her wash properly or get better soap to use in cleaning her clothing.” That went on for some time, each week the neighbor did the laundry there where comments filled with judgment.
Then on a warm sunny day, the woman noticed that her neighbors’ laundry looked bright, fresh and immaculate. She mentioned to her husband, “someone must have finally told her or taught her how to do laundry properly.” Then the husband informed his wife that he had gotten up early that morning and washed their window.
As it is for many of us, what we see when watching others will depend on the lens/window we look through. How transparent is the one you view the world?
I encourage each of us, especially in these troubled times, don’t be so quick to judge! When we have sights that get muddied by the veil of negativity, anger, jealousy, resentment as well as our unfulfilled dreams or desires it can lead to assumptions.
When dealing with young people in our lives, this can be particularly true. Think about the last time you were walking down the street and you saw a young person, ear buds in, pants sagging, dress “to” short, tattoo’s and piercings, how clear is your lens? What judgments do you bring? Does your window need a little washing?